Wednesday, October 22, 2014

michael sam cut again victim of the model minority or he just sucks at pro football?

Back in September I opined, in a post about Michael Sam being cut from the St Louis Rams, every single professional athlete who has made their coming out front page news has become a habitual loser in the sport they allegedly excel in.

And as to be expected, I received alot of hate for it, mostly in the form of ignorance; that's because the gay community like to write me off as somehow being "irrelevant."

Seven weeks later, I proved myself right.

On Tuesday, it was reported  Michael Sam was released Tuesday from the Dallas Cowboys practice squad. As to be expected, gay activists were quick, again, to shout homophobia, never taking into consideration Sam sucks at pro football.

I'm not being mean or sarcastic, but I do admit to a little bit of schadenfreude.   After all, who again was it that had a live TV crew in a house during the NFL draft?  And who was the guy who became the focus of a major rant by Keith Olbermann and other sports anchors across the country because he was gay?

It wasn't me, that's for sure.  I've been waiting on over seven years for someone to write  that story about me and all the abuse I've faced from gay rights activists, and why they continue to defend and protect the rights of bigots and the special interest (ex-gays, gay conservatives, transgenders) over my individual rights.  But no one will. I have to be dead or become a murder victim for that to happen.

For some reason, the gay community invited themselves a myth that because we're gay, we're perceived to have or posses a higher degree of success or moral standing than the population average.

When it comes to Michael Sam, obviously he was held to some higher standard. Maybe.  We'll never know for sure.

As as of right now, there are no openly gay players in any of the major sports (NFL, NHL, MLB, NBA, or pro boxing.  Soccer is not considered a major sport.  Neither is the WWE. Orlando Cruz, who was scheduled to fight someone on Friday night live on Telemundo, had his fight cancelled, and no one here including the folks at Outsports  in their own piece about Michael Sam want to be reminded what he disappointment he has turned out to be.  And as for The MMA, the controversy remains whether Fallon Fox, a [homophobic and misogynist] trans woman ought to be allowed to fight women.

so much for el isla del incanto

A federal judge has upheld Puerto Rico’s ban on same-sex marriage, ruling that the issue is up to the island Legislature, not the courts, to decide.

According to news reports, US District Judge Juan Pérez-Giménez said that legalizing same-sex marriage would open the door to challenges that could legalize polygamous and incestuous marriages.

About that judge; as per Wikipedia:

On October 23, 1979, Pérez-Giménez was nominated by President Jimmy Carter to a new seat on the United States District Court for the District of Puerto Rico created by 92 Stat. 1629. He was confirmed by the United States Senate on December 5, 1979, and received his commission the following day. He served as chief judge from 1984–91, and assumed senior status on March 28, 2006.


Lambda Legal, which filed a lawsuit on behalf of several same sex couples on the island, has announced they will appeal the "abberant district court ruling."

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"when the dust settles."

So much for believing the gay community helping each other out in times of crisis.

A few days ago, I wrote about Lieutenant Colonel Ken Pinkela, someone who was prosecuted by the military for allegations of exposure to HIV, forced to register as a sex offender, and may have lost his home as a result of the former and latter.

Outraged, I contacted a few bloggers and activists in the hopes they can motivate the community into taking action. 

It's been done before; There was a hate crime incident in Philadelphia where social justice warriors quickly identified  suspects wanted in a hate crime attack, and there was the case of a gay youth who video of his family disowning him went viral and receiving thousands of dollars in online donations.  

Seems these two incidents were anomalies.

One gay blogger wrote back he wasn't going to write about because he needed Pinkela to do some groveling. The rest of the people I contacted seem to be suffering from a bad case of Googlephobia.  And this morning, a well known gay activist who lives here in New York finally wrote back and wrote, "my instinct is to let the dust settle, first."

What does that mean? It means there's an unwritten law that when it comes to gay sex offenders one must never acknowledge their existence until they're dead. Then and only then can someone write about how horrible their plight was. After all, how much harm can a gay sex offender cause a gay blogger's social standing? They're dead. They're just paying respects like they would for everyone else. right?

Meanwhile for the past two days, 
Jeremy Hooper and other popular gay bloggers have been creating all knds of fake outrage over some venue located in Coeur d'Alene, Idaho called The Hitching Post where it seems until recently they used to perform civil as well as religious ceremonies until they decided to change its services following the legalization of marriage equality in Idaho.

However, from what I've read, City officials in say they have not received any formal complaints that the Hitching Post wedding chapel has violated the city's anti-discrimination ordinance.

So why the controversy?  Are Hooper et al. exposing yet another Conservative christian scam?  Bitches, please.

News flash: Anti-bigots are professional liars.  Homophobia is motivated by religious values.  If the owners of this so called business want to limit their business to a specific clientele that subscribes to their narrow minded views, let them.  Would be same sex couples looking to get married must not be obligated to hold their weddings there which to me seems to be the gist of the issue.

And if one wants more proof gay activists care more for anti-gay bigots than they do for gay people, Matt Stolhandske, a board member of Evangelicals for Marriage Equality and a contributor to The Purple Elephant, is raising money on behalf of Melissa and Aaron Klein., the Portland based christian bakery owners who are facing up to a $150,000 fine for refusing to make a cake for a lesbian couple’s wedding and have since been crying about going bankrupt.

I expect at any minute of reading about that gay activist attending Peter LaBarbera's annual banquet.

Sunday, October 19, 2014

charged and court martialed for having hiv, a gay veteran loses his home.

I'm not sure how the following story came into my timeline; Until today,  we were not following one another on social media. But somehow the magical wizards who run Google+ "suggested" I do just that.  The rest is, well, relative, for lack of a better expression.

Lieutenant Colonel Kenneth Pinkela had served in the Army for 26 years when his service came to an abrupt end. Prosecuted for aggravated assault, dishonorably discharged and jailed for 9 months at a federal prison in Fort Leavenworth, Kansas,, Lieutenant Colonel Pinkela was forced to register as a sex offender for allegedly failing to disclose his HIV status.

One year later, it seems that he while did the time for the crime, taking responsibility for his actions and becoming a HIV advocate, Lt. Col Pinkela was unable to escape the double stigma of HIV criminalization and sex offenderism. 

On Friday, Lieutenant Colonel Pinkela announced thru a blog he had lost his home.

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I don't want to make this piece into another rant against gay bloggers and the orgs but I would love it if just for once in their lives, they would stop playing these tired old fainting couch games with anti-gay bigots and write about putting a stop to HIV criminalization. 

Better still, having the gay blogs admit at long last sex offender laws are unjust, unconstitutional and ineffective.  But that would take balls, and in this new world of transgender advocacy, where a metaphorical pendulum has swung too far in favor of children and adults who no longer want to identify as either male or female, where gay activists can literally and figuratively get away with misogyny and misandry and openly use  anti-gay slurs against other lesbian and gay people, and the GLBT organizations turning a blind eye to it all, I doubt it very much you'll be reading about this on Huffington Post Gay Voices, The Advocate, Bilerico, Queerty or any gay blog on Monday morning.

Nope, there will be no cutting and pasting this story tomorrow.

Unless I'm wrong about them  and I've no reason give them the benefit of the doubt, in all probably they likely they won't give a damn that an innocent person was put on a website alongside rapists and pedophiles and may have just lost his home because of sex offender residency laws.  What the fuck do they care convicted sex offenderism has never been about safety, but about control?

Truth is, gay sex offenders don't the narrative of the model minority; You know? That myth that about people of a certain ethnic, racial, religious, and or sexual group are perceived to have or posses a higher degree of success or moral standing than the population average? 

I don't want to reopen old wounds, but the notion that someone must have to register as a sex offender as a consequence of some exaggerated fear regarding HIV is a beyond imaginable. Worse, to lose one's home as a result of residency laws created on myths and fears rather than facts.

Before anyone reminds me, I'm all too aware of the subculture  of givers and chasers that exists with the gay community nor have I forgotten of those HIV activists playing good homo/bad homo at my expense.  

Pinkela's accuser remains anonymous.

laverne cox presents the t word: propaganda disguised as visibilty

Billed as one of the biggest moments for mainstream transgender visibility, The T Word, which premiered Friday night on MTV and Logo follows the lives of seven transgender youths hailing from New York, New Orleans, and Baltimore and their determination to live their lives as the opposite gender with varying levels of support from their parents and friends.

The hour long documentary, hosted by Laverne Cox, profiled:
  • Ari, an 18-year-old man from Manhattan, who graduated from high school and is starting college.
  • Avery Grey, a 20-year-old trans woman from Queens, New York, who shares her experiences dating.
  • Daniella Carter, a 20-year-old trans woman from the Bronx, New York, who speaks out against anti-transgender violence.
  • Kye Allums, a 24-year-old trans man in Brooklyn, New York, who became the first Division One transgender basketball player.
  • L'lerret Ailith, a 20-year-old trans woman attending college in New Orleans, Louisiana, where she is an active member of BreakOUT!, a group fighting criminalization of transgender youth.
  • Shane Henise, a 22-year-old man from Baltimore, Maryland and a college student living with his girlfriend.
  • Zoey Luna, a 12-year-old trans girl from California, who is supported by her mother and transferred out of her last school when the school administrators refused to acknowledge her as a girl. 
After its airing, Cox and the cast appeared in a trans forum on Logo TV with MTV News' SuChin Pak.

I wasn't able to find out whether there was a casting call or what, if any, connections the individuals named above have with Cox, her production company and with MTV and Logo.  It was a good cast, and if I weren't an activist and blogger, I would give this program and its after show on Logo, a like or thumbs up.

Therein lies the problem; The Cast.

They reminded me of those actors who appeared in The National Organization For Marriage's Gathering Storm video, a bunch of fake real people trying to sell a product, only instead of so called traditional marriage, it's transgenderism.

No offense to the cast;  I've written here previously and I've discussed elsewhere if the transgender community wants the general public to accept them as normal average citizens , they need to tell the story of what it means to be transgender.  They need to speak their truth, and they have very nicely.  In fact, some of the cast are now enjoying huge followings on social media as a result of the show.

But there were segments of this show that were clearly propagandist, and condescending, and perhaps exploitative. 

For example, there were several reminders to use accurate terminology and pronouns; Once again, this would be perfectly acceptable for the general public, but for activists and bloggers such as myself, very problematic.

But the worst came during the aftershow when they presented someone named Jacon Tobia, a genderqueer, that is, someone who doesn't identity as either male or female.

Jacob was there to discuss the harassment he's faced and offer insight and clarity on the proper use of pronouns and the differences in terminology.

"The biggest misconception people have about my identity is that I'm a man in a dress.  I'm like, honey, I'm not a man."


Tuesday, October 14, 2014

one epic face palm after another

See this photo, right?

I've been like this for the past week.

I explain: Ever since The Supreme Court's decision not to hear five gay marriage cases, effectively making gay marriage legal in 30 states and the District of Columbia, marriage equality activists and organizations that work against the legalization of same-sex marriage in the United States have been at it nonstop, working those tired old tropes that everyone has come to know and love.

It's been like this for the past week, almost every day, with the circuit courts ruling that state bans on same sex marriage are unconstitutional. And every day, the mainstream gay community has had to put up with all kinds of nonsense from both marriage equality activists and social conservatives.

Our side (because I am a gay activist and blogger, after all), has been gloating,  sometimes even taking full credit even though they were not the ones who made that brave decision to challenge laws banning same sex marriage, thumbing their noses and then some at social conservatives, while the latter, social conservatives, has been screaming and shouting and hurling all sorts of insults and slurs, mostly against gay activists and the judges making decisions they disagree with.

It's been the same story since October 6.

As if things couldn't become any worse, there was this post from Gender Identity Watch one that I was looking forward for several days, except all it did was bring more confusion.

To recap, in early October, A writer named Rivka Edeleman wrote a piece entitled Ruthless Misogyny: Janna Darnelle’s Story and Extreme LGBT Activism, accusing Jeremy Hooper and Scott Rose of forming a men's rights group with the intent of turning women into breeders.  Both Hooper and Rose responded to the piece by outing Edelman, who turned out to be someone named BA Newmark, an author and professor who appears to be part of a group of people blaming their adult social dysfunction on their gay or lesbian parents.   She, Edelman/Newmark or whatever her name is, even filed an amicus brief to the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Fifth Circuit to deny marriage rights to all same-sex couples.

To be clear, I don't have a problem with that; The problem is with Hooper, who implied an association between Rivka Edelman/BA Newmark or whatever her name is, and "Gallus Mag," a lesbian blogger critical of transgenderism.

I originally wanted to have a say on that, but that I reminded myself I'm not a feminist, nor am I in any position to speak on behalf of anyone else, specifically "Gallus Mag" who appears to be blogging under a pseudonym.  

Once again, nothing wrong with blogging under a psuedonym, but when one is addressing a problem, such as transgenderism, or gay on gay bullying, one can't have it both ways.

So I waited. And waited, and waited.

And then Cathy Brennan decided to post something about this ordeal. Great, but in her post she seems to have a problem with naming names:
“but we were horrified to find that UNKNOWN PERSONS are now resorting to Craigslist and Ripoff Report to find information/spread information about this woman:”
Unknown Persons, Cathy? The person you won’t name is proudly taking credit all over social media. His name even appears on that Rip Off Report.  Not sure about Craiglist; All there exists is a google result which links to a page that doesn't exist anymore.

I would ask or email Scott myself but it seems his activism involves writing and advocating under a psuedonym, too.

And then there was Hooper arguing Brennan, both of them busily playing themselves as victims instead of activists.

I am at my wit's end.

It's like watching Maury, but its not. It's real life. Fourteen days of Gay activists acting like a bunch of fools, taking credit for things they had no part of, anti-gay bigots pretending these Court rulings betray their faith and scapegoating gay activists, and in the middle of it all, a bunch of fake activists playing childish games on the internet.

And the worst of it is, there's more of this insanity to come.

Now I know why so many gay blogs have gone pffft.

Update: I'm not going anywhere.  But if there are lapses that occur, it's because I just can't with all this bullshit.

Sunday, October 12, 2014

the smearing of carl demaio

I don't care for gay Republicans.

Actually, I don't care for special interests, period;  For those not living in bliss, this past year alone, we, or rather I, because many gay activists with blogs refuse to acknowledge there even exists a problem, have been highlighting a number of problems within the LGBT.

Gay republicans are no exception.  Why anyone GLBT would want to support a party that does not respect or support them is beyond me.

In anticipation, maybe, of having someone remind me liberals oppose basic rights for women and homosexuals like me, and often look the other way when it comes to oppression, i'll save you the trouble: Yes, I know.

But I would be remiss if I did not say or write something about the vicious and ugly smear campaign like the one taking place against Carl DeMaio, a gay republican living in San Diego, California.

Mr. Demaio is a candidate for California's 52nd congressional district in the November 4, 2014 election, and is challenging one-term incumbent Scott Peters.

Earlier this week DeMaio, was accused of sexually harassing, sexually accosting, and then attempting to bribe into silence, his former campaign policy director.  On Friday, CNN aired a nine minute story about the "scandal:"

This video is rife with problems.  At minimum, this appears to be a case of a fired employee seeking vengeance on their former employer, another case of he said he said, with someone, perhaps the accuser using the gay panic defense, an act now deemed illegal in the state of California.

At most, this is a political smear by his opponents, weeks before an important election.

Which is nothing new for Carl Demaio.  Ever since people found out DeMaio is an openly gay republican, he's been attacked by both social conservatives and the gay rights community.

I know a little something about that.

I can hear it now; That so called gay liberal progressive that loves claiming to stand up for liberal principles while screaming terf and pedophile at their critics: "Oh, Nelson, you're not actually defending this guy, are you?   Read Aravosis.  He (Demaio) has not exactly been an advocate for [our] social issues."

In anticipation, maybe, of having that conversation,  I'm not.  I live in New York.  An endorsement would be meaningless. 

And I have read Aravosis' take on this, including his latest beg for money (no doubt to extend his stay in Europe, again.)

I've also read a bunch of other blogs and news stories; This story of Demaio being opposed to gay social issues is a iie that was started by Fred Sainz of the HRC who claims to have asked for DeMaio's support on Prop 8 and Demaio said no.  Sainz pushed that story out as talking point, and Aravosis, of course, mouthpiece for Gay Inc he is, ran with it.

So why are people engaging in  discrediting tactics against DeMaio?

Is it because Demaio is being portrayed as a rising star in republican politics and can actually think for himself, unlike the HRC and its sycophantic base that believes we should all adopt their beliefs and act the way they think we should?

And when exactly did cruising another gay man become a crime?

It seems to me those who are looking to discredit Mr. Demaio are the same ones who want to convince the opposite sex  gay people subscribe to a higher standard of conduct.  That is a bold faced lie. 

I would hope that would be voters in California will remember that when they go to the polls, voting on the issues and not the sex.