Tuesday, July 29, 2014

yvette schneider bullshitter then and now.

For nearly twenty years, Yvette Cantu Schneider has been a key figure in the ex-gay movement, working in tangent with major pro religion anti-gay organizations such as The Family Research Council, Focus On The Family, Concerned Women For America, The American Family Association, The Yes On 8 campaign, and many others.

Schneider was the person these organizations would rely upon when they needed help in selling their arguments against marriage equality and other GLBT social issues to  their narrow minded and gullible constituency.  She participated in many anti-marriage equality events.

I already showed you video of Schneider at the FineLine event in support of Proposition 8.

Here, Schneider appears at The Call San Diego, an anti-gay event that was led by Lou Engle where he led hundreds of religious activists in a day long prayer and fasting against the initiative known Proposition 8. In this video clip, Schneider appears at the behest of Jim Garlow to talk about praying away the gay, so as to convince voters and viewers to vote for Prop 8.

(Apologies for the video quality.)

We will probably never know the irreparable harm or damage Schneider has caused to the gay and lesbian movement; especially now that Jeremy Hooper and GLAAD are erasing her entire history in the ex-gay movement and are repackaging her as a "supporter of LGBT worth and equality."

Today, GLAAD"s so-called special projects consultant Jeremy Hooper published a Q&A with Schnieder where he does what he cans to minimize the irreparable harm Schneider caused to the gay and lesbian movement:


Here, Hooper asks Schneider about her appearance at the Fine Line event where she equated same sex marriage to bestiality and pedophillia and, to his credit, skillfully works to minimize the still damaging effects from her appearance:
HOOPER: You mentioned Miles McPherson, one of the big preachers on the wrong side of the Prop 8 issue. As someone closely following that campaign, I vividly remember you appearing at McPherson's "Fine Line" event in the fall of 2008. The part I remember most is you equating marriage between two men or women with marriage that could theoretically take place between a man and a horse, a pedophile and his underage victim, and so on. Here's the clip:
I suspect that you regret using that language now, but was it language that you questioned using even at the time?  
SCHNEIDER: There are very few statements I’ve made that felt as gut-twisting as this one. I’d have to say that moments like this, delivering lines like this, felt wrong. It’s better to have an “ex-gay” spokesperson say something as outrageous as this; it’s more believable. A male pastor would seem hateful saying such a thing. A woman who used to be gay is the perfect person to equate gay marriage with all sorts of possible marriage combinations, and, of course, the point is to scare people into thinking these scenarios could happen.

Hooper then asks Schneider if she was given talking points to recite at The Fine Line and The Call events;

HOOPER: You say "delivering lines"—as in scripted? Were most of the Prop 8 events scripted like this one? 
SCHNEIDER: “The Call” and the “Fine Line” events are the only two Prop. 8 events I participated in. 
HOOPER: But you were handed actual scripts to memorize? Can we see them? 
Scribd : https://www.scribd.com/embeds/235233094/content?start_page=1&view_mode=scroll&access_key=key-1UyP0UA2kMh3ajcnPrCX&show_recommendations=true
Wait, what's that? Christian conservatives were being succinct and strategic in their religious and politically based demonization toward gay people? How utterly outrageous.


What's even more pathetic and disgusting, in addition to everything else, is Schneider exploiting her daughter's illness no doubt to get gay activists to back off:

" When my daughter was diagnosed with leukemia..."


Nobody made Yvette Schneider do anything. She was a volunteer. The ex-gay movement has become a bad joke and she needs to sell a book.

The notion that this women is being given a chance at redemption, while other's have to spend their lives walking a fine line (pun intended) between invisibility and conformity is beyond the pale.

Monday, July 28, 2014

change is possible when money is involved: former 'ex-gay' activist Yvette Schneider quits, apologizes, bribes glaad.

Good news:

In what is no doubt a major blow to the ex-gay movement, Yvette Schnieder a key figure in the so called ex-gay movement, reportedly reached out to GLAAD to announce she " no longer wishes to identify with the "ex-gay" or anti-LGBT movement, " and, "is sorry for the pain she caused as part of that world.

As part of her apology, GLAAD posted an essay from ex-gay activist Yvette Cantu Schneider where she discuss her role on behalf of the religious right's anti-gay agenda.


Here, Schneider details her participation in an event in support of Proposition 8:
That evening was the Fine Line event in support of Proposition 8 at The Rock Church in San Diego. It would be simulcast to churches across California in an attempt to sway the God-loving, church-going faithful to vote for a constitutional amendment defining marriage as the union between a man and woman. I was a panelist; the token “ex-gay” spokesperson, chosen to vouch for the evangelical Christian belief that while people may not choose to be gay, they can certainly choose not to stay gay. Every detail of the event had been pre-planned and rehearsed. The texts, phone calls, and emails from viewers and attendees asking questions were actually written and recorded in advance by those of us who would serve on the panel. But for some reason, as the event drew near, I couldn’t shake the nerves. My heart wasn’t in this event; deep down I knew I didn’t belong here. But I played my part, and delivered my lines. 
It so happens I happen to have videos of Yvette's appearance at the Rock Church in San Diego. In this clip she's asked to respond to the question, Is being gay a choice?

In this video clip, Schneider responds to the inevitable same sex marriage question.  Fair warning: Schneider makes or made several demeaning and inflammatory remarks about gays:

Nervous? Her heart wasn't in this event?   Yeah, right.

It's interesting in that Schneider would reach out to GLAAD and it's special projects consultant Jeremy Hooper.   The ex-gays love Jeremy Hooper; He's what one would call a friendly enemy. No surprise, Hooper is hawking Schneider's new book, with ten percent of the proceeds going to GLAAD:

Did GLAAD accept a bribe from a former ex-gay? It sure seems so.

with gay activists like these, who needs enemies?

Know what I find disgusting? GLBT activists who use the gays are pedophiles trope as a desperate means to win a stupid debate on social media with internet sociopaths.

With friends like these, who needs enemies.

But herein lies the problem: Who says they were ever my friends? Who says they were ever your friends? 

Quoting Nancy Goldstein, December 29, 2008:

Gay history — unedited — is ugly, angry, and violent. It’s police dragging us out of cellar bars and down to the station to gang fuck the femmes and face-rape the butches, queens, and trannies. It’s military witch hunts; suicides and “experimental therapies,” from lobotomies and electro-shock to Christian boot camps. It’s Stonewall, where we showered raiding police with bottles, locked them in the bar, and set it afire. It’s ACT UP and chaining ourselves to pharmaceutical companies’ fences to protest AIDS drugs price gouging.


Ironically, Ms. Goldstein wrote this while criticizing Milk, the 2008 biofilm based on the life of Harvey Milk starring Sean Penn and directed by Gus Van Zant. 
She called the film pasteurized, homogenized, “placid and sterile, even prudish.”

“Harvey Milk deserved a better film than this.”

True that. But why leave it at a film. Don’t we all deserve better?

Quoting again, here’s what Harvey Milk once said about coming out:

“Gay brothers and sisters,... You must come out. Come out... to your parents... I know that it is hard and will hurt them but think about how they will hurt you in the voting booth! Come out to your relatives... come out to your friends... if indeed they are your friends. Come out to your neighbors... to your fellow workers... to the people who work where you eat and shop... come out only to the people you know, and who know you. Not to anyone else. But once and for all, break down the myths, destroy the lies and distortions. For your sake. For their sake. For the sake of the youngsters who are becoming scared by the votes from Dade to Eugene.”
― Harvey Milk

Fast forward, now we have GLBT activists telling people whose coming out experiences are ugly, angry, and violent being told they’re disgusting. They’re reviving all the myths, lies, and distortions being told about gay people.

Correction: Revive may be the wrong word. Refreshing may be a better term.

They have no respect for anyone’s individual experiences. 

They’ve invited themselves of the requisite skills to edit certain gay people right out of existence.

Another blogger and activist once described these people as “coward activists.”

Then I agreed; Today, I’m not sure if “coward” is the right term to apply for these people.

But it does take a special talent to sit behind a keyboard all day long debating homophobic people on social media and inviting themselves into this delusion of self importance.

What’s even more astonishing to me is hearing, seeing, reading these self anointed paragons of the equality movement talking and or writing about respect.

Enter Cathy Brennan:


“If everyone would live their life with, like, a little bit of respect for other people, we would all be better off, you know, and we could then find ways, the things we have in common and enable us to support one another; because as gender nonconforming people, we all have, a significant interest in like, combating homophobic violence or misogynistic violence because we’re all bashed because of that, we’re all called out because because we’re not manly enough or too faggy or whatever whatever, but we’re not there right now. We’re too busy fighting each other and it’s a waste of time.”

“The thing that’s missing from the GLBT community is honesty. And you know, let’s be honest about who we are, and what we need and how we need to respect other people.”


Hard to imagine this is the same woman whom twenty four hours later, compared me to a homophobic, misogynist transbian who advocates rape and killing women.

Misery loves company, I guess.

Someone suggested I file charges against Cathy Brennan for slander or defamation.

But why? What good would it do?

I’m a big boy. I can handle criticism. I did not become an activist and blogger become liked by anyone, let alone Cathy Brennan.

And I did not come out of my angry, ugly, and violent closet to win any popularity contests.


Saturday, July 26, 2014

"You're disgusting. So is Nelson"

Before I continue, I need to make mention of the fact that I served one year in prison, after pleading one count to one count of promoting a sexual performance of a minor. As a result of my crime, I've been placed on a sex offender registry.

Some of you might be wondering why I'm reopening old wounds.

This morning, I had someone alert me to a brief exchange between an internet sociopath and GIDWatch, the official twitter account for genderidentitywatch.com.

I'm somewhat reluctant to post the screengrab. And I really don't want to dignify this, but I'm way past the point of being sick and tired of having people, LGBT activists mostly, invite themselves of the right to judge and criticize me.

First off, whatever happened occurred when I wasn't a blogger or activist.  I went to prison for a year because I was criminally profiled by a man who is notorious for trolling gay websites and building criminal cases against gay men and teen boys.  And becase I was being careless and ignorant.  It had nothing to do with pedophillia.

The reason I became an activist and blogger was to fight back from people attempting looking to drag me back into prison again after doing time for the crime.

But it's the past.  What's done is done and there's nothing I can do to change that.  What I can do, however, is learn from experience and make goddamn certain it doesn't happen again, which is precisely what I've done for the past ten years now advocating against special interest groups causing harm and endangering the gay and lesbian community.

They would include boylovers, ex-gays, anti-gays, pedophiles, religionists gay and straight, and now homophobic trans women activists.

Not that anyone's noticed or wants to.

But for the past ten years, I've had to put up with a bunch of overzealous LGBT activists, the majority of whom for reasons that cannot be explained, are terribly narrowminded, paranoid, and demonstrably hypocritical beyond belief.

It saddens me that Gender Identity Watch has decided they too, want to play an irresponsible and dangerous game at my expense by lumping me in with pedophiles and rapists.

"You're disgusting. So is Nelson."

I'm not sure what Gender Identity Watch are implying.  For the record, I've never mocked anyone's rape.

Nor do I spend my day stalking people online and creating content at their or anyone's expense.

Let's talk about disgusting; The only people known for linking pedophillia and homosexuality are anti-gay cowards.

And far as I my recent opines regarding transgenderism and transgenders, I've been trying very hard to seperate the two, but as Ive been witnessed to, they love the hypocrisy, they love having it both ways on everything.

And that's the real disgusting part of it all.

For example, trans activists have been demanding that we as a community not use words like tranny and shemale. They call it a slur against transgenders, despite there being no evidence tranny and shemale ever being used to denigrate trans people.   On the other hand, trans women activists have taken it upon themselves to use the pedophile slur to vilify gay activists and bloggers [like me], never mind the fact there is no actual link between pedophilia and homosexuality.

But don't let the facts get in the way of one's narrow minded agenda.

As for Gender Identity Watch, it's seems they've too have forgotten what they're supposed to be about exactly and have imagined themselves of the right to exploit sex offenders for their own personal or monetary gain.

For several days, GIDWatch has been alerting it's followers the Sylvia Rivera Law Project has been giving a blogging platform to a registered sex offender named Lewis Stevens. Lewis now wants to become Leanna and share his or her rather, experiences as an incarcerated trans woman

Not that there's anything wrong with someone detailing their transition, but it's just that the Sylvia Rivera Law Project is serious lacking accountability and transparency on this one, refusing to mention Leanna, formerly Lewis, is currently serving an eighty seven month prison after pleading guilty to one count of promoting a sexual performance of a minor.

Or the hypocrisy and unethicality in playing sex offender tug of war.

And therein lies the problem.  It seems when all else fails for GIDWatch, they go trolling for the nearest sex offender online and blame them for the perceived threat to women's spaces.

It's a sick twisted game I want no part of.

The unfortunate part is I've been trying without any help from Gender Identity Watch or anyone else who agrees with me the T must leave LGB, to stop attempts by trans activists to have the Southern Poverty Law Center declare Gender Identity Watch a hate group.  I even tried writing a letter to Twitter on why it was a mistake to ban Cathy Brennan.  I've also argued with people about the recent attempts to bar Gender Identity Watch from Facebook.

And as many may recall, I was the only gay blogger to express his outrage over the way officials with NYC Dyke March allowed a bunch of women with penises to verbally assault and harass a lesbian activist who was there to celebrate being an out and proud lesbian.

Rinse. Lather. Repeat. 
Quite the thank you from a coalition whose shared activist focus quickly spins the bottle to land on the choice to advert their gaze, when their own personal and/or monetary gain stands to be lost through the association of the common member's pain gone public.
Yeah, no kidding.

Whatever. I'm not opposed to being critiqued. In fact, I welcome it. I made a promise to myself never to go back to that dysfunctional life again and I intend to keep my promise regardless of what people think.  And having people criticising me just means that I need to act responsibily.

But it’s another thing to be backstabbed, hated on, blamed, accused, lied about, etc.

If anyone thinks exploiting/attacking me is the best way to win a character debate, you better seriously reconsider what it is you're advocating for because today you made it quite obvious you're an organization that promotes oppression. This is not how you win friends, this is how you lose them.

And in the future, if you or anyone has a problem with me, don't hide behind your Twitter account.  It makes you a coward.


Friday, July 25, 2014

trans women are driving much of the conflict within the LGBT community, according to a trans woman.

Writing for Queerty and a diversity problem that exists at GLAAD, Andrea James reveals an inconvenient about the modern day trans movement:  Trans women are driving much of the conflict within the LGBT community.


As with everything else that has been taking place, trans women activists are doing their damndest to discredit Andrea James by calling her a traitor to the transgender community.

Did I mention Andrea James is transgender?

Thursday, July 24, 2014

so much for j nelson aviance: you have been blocked from following this account at the request of the user.

I'm not surprised.   After all, this does follow a disturbing pattern I've been seeing repeatedly when one deals with homophobic transgender activists.  Someone writes a column or blog or makes a statement critical of transgenderism, and then the homophobic transgender activists fight back by engaging in a character attacks, and then person folds like a cheap suit.

I tell that someone to stand their ground and I get blocked.

I don't get it.  No, actually, I do get it.

Apparently I must be confused on what it means to stand their ground; I thought it was to stand your ground and maintain your position after someone has expressed their displeasure. I had no idea it meant blocking someone on Twitter because the internet is a coward's paradise.

Whatever; despite this latest setback, I reject the term "cisgender" and agree with everything he wrote; And I believe strongly transgenders should get out of the LGB.  We don't tolerate anti-gays and ex-gays, and anyone who advocate against marriage equality. It's beyond me why we as a community are making an exception for the rule for a community of individuals who demand we accept their emotional and psychological malfunctions.

Another blogger once told me, there are activists, the ones who become activists out of those unforeseen events that dumped their life, or the life of a friend or loved one, down the toilet, and then you have activists who cut and run when the baggage that propels one to fight instead of quit is compromised or exploited.

And that has certainly been the case with whole nonsense regarding tranny and cisgender and the gay and lesbian community.

Hell hath no fury like a homophobic trans woman with a penis scorned.

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

no, it's not okay to call anyone cisgender

It's been awhile since I've heard from Ian Finkenbinder, aka One Angry Queer.  Sometime last year, he invaded my Twitter feed to offer me a Dan Choi mousepad:

I refused the offer.

Today, he's written a post titled, "It's Okay To Be Called 'Cisgender.' I Promise, " a response to J. Nelson Aviance Huffpost Gay Voice piece where he rejects the term cisgender.


Suffice to say, or write, Ian's piece is rife with sexism, racism, misandry, homophobia, ignorance, arrogance, hypocirsy, and elitism.

Fikenbinder, who identifies himself currently as "genderqueer," described Mr. Aviance's column, quote, a "trainwreck of a tantrum" and a headache to read.

I would advise Mr. Finkebinder to take two Advil and a hot shower and have his vision checked.

Here's the problem with Ian FInkebinder: One cannot tell from one day to next what it is he wants to be.

Here's what somewhat else wrote about Finkenbinder; it's located here in case anyone's wondering, and it's been slightly edited for context.
...Interestingly if you search the net he bounces from one cult to another. He was supposedly a military translator helping to pursue the murder enof civilians in Iraq, then a don’t ask, don’t tell opponent chaining himself to the white house gate, then some sort of internet personality for risque fashion shows, then an Occupy Seattle spokesperson, then an Anarchist, now a unicorn anarchist, whaterver that is, bent on spitting on cops whenever someone else with a worthy cause produces a moving protest. Way to hijack everyone else’s peaceful successful movements to shout ” Me! Me! Look at me!” Sad.
That last part is especially troublesome: In addition to everything else, Finkenbinder has admitted he is HIV positive.


Here's the problem [I have] with cisgender: It is, at best, a myth and, at worst, a very slimy way for trans activists and people like Ian to bash women and gays , under the guise they're the ones who are being oppresive, when the reality is Transgenders have everything they can to live their lives to the fullest.

So why the need for cisgender then?

Obviously, it's the only way for them, Ian and the homophobic tranny community, to be gutless without repercussions.